fresh sex

by RedpoleQ

Not surprisingly, I hear a lot from my clients and potential clients about their sex lives and I’ve noticed that most men’s attitudes vary greatly from my own. It seems that many guys are content with a few basic moves: a bit of kissing, some necking action, maybe playing with her breasts a little, a bit of fingering, some blow job action (if lucky), and then 10-20 minutes of “the hard pounding,” as one of my friends used to call it. Repeat a few days later.

The New Girl Cycle

These same guys quickly become bored with any particular girl after a few weeks and find themselves in a constant cycle: they get excited over a new girl, have lots of monotonous sex with her, gradually and obviously become less attracted to her, which causes her to become insecure and consider just disappearing, or results in increased complaints, nagging, and neediness, which causes him to move on to a new girl to start the process all over again.

That’s one way to live your life, and some people are perfectly content with that. These guys like the chase more than the catch – and if that’s you, great – but if you’re like me, or a friend of mine who said, “I don’t like to hunt ’em, I like to farm ’em,” then you have to keep things fresh and exciting to avoid that downward spiral.

How to Keep Your Sex Fresh, and Yourself Satisfied

In a previous article on sex, I wrote about 7 techniques that will make your sex explosive. Just playing out that list would take months, when you think about all the possible variations, and variations to each variation. This is especially true, since in the early part of a sexual relationship, there are some things that a girl may not be quite ready for. Many of the sex techniques I mentioned would scare a girl off if you used them early on – they require a degree of comfort and trust that you build over time (and sometimes a degree of skill and dexterity too).

This last part is especially key because, though China is experiencing one of sorts at the moment, Asia never really had a sexual revolution. As a result, on the whole, women need to feel an emotional connection before they are willing to open up sexually. Some men are disappointed that women aren’t the porn stars that western women often can be, but I find it rather charming that the sexual aspect of the relationship develops over time.

For Me…

Once my sexual relationships progress there are so many possibilities that, even within an hour long sex session, I ultimately just don’t have time and energy for everything. Sometimes I want to have sweet, gentle, intimate, sex, and other times I want to rough her up a bit… or a lot. Sometimes I’m in one sex position and I think about switching to something new, but I’m having so much fun as is, that I decide to save it for another time.

Let’s take the mirror for example. Sometimes what I want to see is her on her knees in front of me giving me a blowjob. Another day, I might want to lay down or sit. Another time, I might have her lay down with me on my knees next to her head.  Each is it’s own visual feast. Even without the mirror, those variations are going to keep me busy, and that brief list doesn’t even include what I’m doing to her while it’s all happening.

What’s really cool is that the same process is going on in her mind because she has her favorites, too; and, because she knows that every time is different, she comes wondering what it’s going to be like this time around. When you do this right, girls will show up to meet you with their panties already dripping wet. The anticipation builds up for me, too, as I plan out the next session – this really adds an extra lair of deliciousness on top of your natural sexual desire. That anticipation, combined with all the different techniques, keeps each sex session fresh and new for me. It also keeps me excited about seeing the same girl again next time, and this is important for keeping out of the trap of having to replace girls.


  • The Dude

    I agree with you again. Once you get passed the “I just want to pound pussy hard for 15 minutes” you find that the women you keep just get better and better. In the past few months I have LTGF (all married of course) have asked me recreate rape scenes from a famous movie, make a homemade porn movie for her husband (who then wrote to thank me) and finally have trained another to squirt during sex (while she can squirt during foreplay, she now squirts (if I pull out) during penetration. It is amazing to see a woman curl up into a ball of orgasmically spent goo after soaking the sheets so much that the bed is a veritable swamp…
    BUT….To get to this level
    A. You need to spend the time to get the rapport/sexual trust
    B. Do all sorts of play so she can expand her horizons.

    But again Redpole…Giving away the deepest master secrets…..Shame on you!

    • RedpoleQ

      What can I say? I’m just a big hearted guy that can’t get to all the ladies myself! Glad to have you on board as a brother in arms…but there’s so much to go around, I’m always looking for new recruits!

      • The Dude

        I think one things guys do not really understand…Is that scarcity applies to men. Ie, good men who can please a woman are scarce. Sad, but true. Most women, by virtue of having holes and pulse, can please the average man…But guys who can have a woman turn into a orgasmic frenzied wild woman are very rare.. And women do not want to let go of them (not matter what they say). If you can reach that level..The only problem is scheduling as you have only so much time and energy for women…

        • Socrates

          Yes, and that goes for other traits that she craves in a guy, too, not just sex.

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